Everyone has those moments where they look at themselves in the mirror and wonder what the hell they are doing. Right? Please, say yes.
BEEN THERE, DONE THAT.
(Will be there again, I’m sure.)
I talk (or write) about it because it’s real. It’s something I go through a good amount, and I don’t think that it’s bad. I think it’s a way of setting yourself straight, kind of figuring your life out through those curvy roads and setbacks. It’s easy to get lost during your journey to wherever you are going, to follow others, to lose sight of things. It’s easy to mislead yourself, you know?
And I don’t just mean with outfits. I mean with everything.
Don’t get me wrong, it can be with outfits too. I’ve definitely looked in the mirror and wondered why the hell I tried to pull off shoulder pads in my jacket when they just don’t do me any good.
But she looked so good with them!
Well, I’m not her. And that goes for life too. We find ourselves looking at others, scrolling through their pages, reading about their lifestyle, seeing their pasta in Italy on a Monday afternoon, wondering what we are doing wrong. Wondering what the hell we are doing.
Here’s some advice I’ve learned through 24 years of growing: go back to the basics.
In EVERYTHING. Can’t figure out your outfit? Basics. Dress it up with a bag. Just go back to what you know, to what you love. Feeling lost in life? Slow down, go back to what you know. Why did you start this? Why are you doing what you are doing? Write it down. Pretend the computers and phones don’t exist. Go back in time. Why did you have a passion for this in the first place? Answer your questions on paper and rewind for a few minutes.
The world we live in gives us so many options. It gives us so many opportunities to pretend to be something. Key word: pretend.
I’ll be the first to admit that when I started a blog, I started it because I had a true passion for writing and sharing my soul, not for outfits. That’s why it’s not a fashion blog and my Instagram isn’t a fashion portfolio. I tried new things, narrowing down what I liked and didn’t. There are bloggers out there that are just meant to be doing this, I follow a ton! They are beautiful and full of chic advice and fashion tips. I, on the other hand, don’t think that I’m that natural at some parts of blogging, I just don’t think that a lot of it (like being photographed) comes naturally for me. It has been a learning experience, all because I love to write and wanted to try new things, which has been more than amazing. But, I had to find myself again. I got lost at one point, so I had to continue to paint when I had anxiety, to throw on the white tank top with 7 year old denim shorts and that black bag I can’t get enough of, to write for the simple reason that it eased my mind, to keep notebooks with me and pens in my pockets. I had to go back to where I started.
This is VERY cliché (but true): I had to look at myself in the mirror, tell myself to never be anything but ME, and go back to the basics. A serious pep talk. I had to go back to why I started a blog. Writing. Telling my stories. Creating a community of souls that want to fix their anxiety, talk about books they just finished, or read on why I paced my living room for six hours the night before.
In anything that you do, I truly believe that sometimes you just need to take a simple step back. If you are feeling rushed and overwhelmed, ask yourself why and write it down. Read it out-loud. Tape it to your wall. Make it your phone background. Put it in your purse. Whatever you need to do, just never forget to go back to the basics.
It’s truly so amazing to gain new opportunities through starting something you just wanted to do for fun, or even through a new job, but it’s so easy to get lost during it. It’s so easy to lose sight of your why. It’s so damn easy to forget who you are, to look at yourself in the mirror and feel confused and mislead.
I’m not a therapist or some sort of doctor, I’m not a fashion professional, I am a 24-year-old with a mind that thinks way too much so writes it all down. A girl who is passionate about helping others, designing simple things, painting on Thursday nights and molding clay into cactus plant pots on Friday mornings. Just one girl, in this huge ass world, with a mind that won’t stop racing so forgets to water the plants but remembers to paint the linen blanket to relax. Someone who wants to travel to see how others live, who wants to bring home the culture and share it with her readers, who wants to write a book one day. A 24-year-old who wanted to create a platform for the like-minded to come and unwind, so she did.
Have I forgotten that? Yes, at times. I got lost in the moment, veering off the path I wanted to take in the first place.
Have I remembered? Yes, after writing it all down. After revisiting the basics of why.
I relate this all to blogging because that’s what I do. That’s the journey I’ve taken, fallen in love with, gotten lost during, re-found myself at, and returned to the basics with. But it can be with anything, with whatever you’re doing.
A pep talk in the mirror can be a damn good thing, and you don’t have to write it on the internet like I am so no one will even know you’re talking to yourself. Go back to the basics. Answer your why.
Sometimes it even helps to turn all the social media off for a bit. If you follow me on snap and insta, you know I’m all over the place. Some days I’m sharing every detail of my life — because that’s what I do! I share things with you guys. Other days, I’m not on there at all. Those are the days where I feel lost and need to refocus and regroup myself. I stop looking, stop posting, stop scrolling. I do what’s best for me to remember why I started this in the first place.
Thoughts? If you’re new to KXC, come say hi. I love meeting you guys.