Some day, one day, maybe a day that already happened for some, we might look at ourselves in the mirror and say ‘shit, I got it all wrong’. Or ‘I’m getting it all wrong’. Maybe we will think it. Maybe we will say it when no one is around. Maybe we will pretend we don’t know that we are thinking it. We will forget it, maybe.
So many of us spend years trying to get to a point where we don’t even want to be, it’s just socially right to be there. We work ourselves up to the money, the job everyone wants, the degree you want to say out-loud at a dinner table when everyone is listening. We follow what we see on social media, how many followers we should have to be something, what we are told is right, what so much of this world has become. We spend days, hours, minutes killing ourselves to get a step closer to the next best thing.
This isn’t me saying you shouldn’t work your ass off, no. That’s not what I’m saying. It’s me saying that you should work your ass off for the right things.
Work your ass off for what is going to make you happy, for what is going to bring more smiles into your life and less anxiety. Don’t just work your ass off to get to a position you complain about going to every Monday morning. YOU have potential to do more. YOU have potential to work your ass off in all the right ways.
People look at life and try to perfect it all.
The thing is, life isn’t about the things you may think it is. Life isn’t about the job title, the degree, the brand name you’re wearing. Life isn’t about perfecting the shit out of it.
What you are sipping on at the cafe table next to me, what book you pull out of your bag and what falls out with the book, what notes you write in your journal, what old t-shirt you decided to wear – it all says more about you than your degree and your follower numbers. Those little things, those tiny things you don’t nearly think about as much, the coffee you order without hesitation, the book you read without asking yourself why, it all tells more.
I looked at BA the other night and couldn’t help but to go to bed thanking God for – very simply put – putting such a good human by my side.
I’m not sure what I have done in this life to deserve someone next to me who awakens my soul every single day, but I thanked Him for it. I thanked Him for placing a human next to me who will make me better, who will see things in me that I don’t see, who will interest me and encourage me. And that was when it hit me that life is more than those things.
Life is so much more than those things.
I want everyone, whether they have a BA next to them or not, to see this. Unfortunately, some people just won’t, but if you are reading this – I hope that you do. I hope that you see how much more you are than a degree or a brand.
I hope you see those little things in life.
Before I sat down on my parents couch to write this, my brother told me to stop looking so far into the future. He told me to live, right now, and to have fun with it. He then finished by saying ‘don’t make things a job before they have to be’.
I sat on that sentence for awhile, because he didn’t mean it as in ‘don’t ever work’ or ‘don’t make what you love a career’, but instead to just slow the hell down. Take it in. Live in the mistakes. Laugh at the stupid things. Call your mom. Hug your dad. Let your dog lick your face sometimes (or all the time).
Does anyone really know what they are doing?
You didn’t get it all wrong. You aren’t getting it all wrong.
Tell the people you love that you love them and enjoy the small things.