There is a quote that I always look at, I mean always. Sometimes I set it as my background on my computer or phone, I have it on my Pinterest boards, I have it written in my notebooks and on my planners, I keep it in my photos, I’ll probably Instagram it tomorrow (lol). It’s everywhere.
I do this for a reason. I do it because the quote hits home every damn time.
“DOUBT KILLS MORE DREAMS THAN FAILURE EVER WILL”
– KARIM SEDDIKI
Simple, right? You’ve probably seen it and it might seem a bit cliché, blah blah blah I know I know.
But hear me out.
There are days you wake up and don’t want to do anything – we allllll have those days. There are times when I personally think being a hygienist is only going to get harder and some patients will, eh.. never like me, times when I don’t want to write a blog, times when my brain shuts off and convinces me that inspiration is literally NO.WHERE.
Then there are days I doubt what I’m doing.
Those days are the worst. Beyond bad. Hell and back. The worst of the worst of the worst. DO YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN? It ruins your ENTIRE day. Week even. The doubt literally takes your thoughts and pushes them into your entire body so you just become a ball of anxiety… gah.
I’ve never truly been super confident. And sometimes I still struggle with it, so I wouldn’t even say I’m super confident now. I’ve had to really teach myself how to know my worth and how to put myself out there without taking all of the comments or remarks too seriously.
Let me tell you how it all started (really quick).
I grew up with anxiety. Done. That’s it. Anxiety took over my life. I went to high school and I was this body of tension and worry ALL.DAY.LONG. I went to college and grew out of it a little bit, but had waves of bed-ridden days. I went through a shitty breakup, boom. Anxiety up, confidence down. Way way down. It happens, you know what I’m talking about.
I was definitely not one of those ‘put your lipstick on, do your squats and show him that ass he is missing’ type of girls. It took me much longer than I wanted for me to get myself there LOL.
I would go to work as a dental hygienist and doubt myself. I would doubt if I was good, if patients liked me, if that person sighed because of me or just being at the dentist in general… er. Then I started to doubt everything I was doing. I love writing, I love taking pictures, I love organizing and creating, I love bringing people together and pretty things, I love everything about blogging – so I started one. I never once didn’t want to, but I have for sure doubted if was good enough to do it.
Comments strolled in, people started to say things and I started to doubt.
RIGHT THERE – WRONG.
And NONE of this is for sympathy or a pitty-party, it’s because I’ve learned so much in doubting myself that I want YOU to feel the same.
I should have never doubted myself and I can openly, confidently and honestly say that because the only way to grow at something is to do it, to mess up, to put yourself out there and push through the doubts. That doesn’t mean I’m the best at what I’m doing at all. It doesn’t mean I think that either. It means I know I want to do it, so I’m doing it. I know I want to struggle in order to get better at it.
If other people are going to doubt you, which yes – they always will, you can not. You need to be your own fan for a little bit (besides your mom and dad of course). You need to have your own back, which again is cliché but I really think it’s a strong statement that some of us need to hear.
I started a blog because I wanted to create a community of women similar to how I was feeling. And I love to write. And now I have learned that I love to create a home for my brand, a place for it to be branded. I wanted to share my anxiety, my smoothies, my heartbreak remedies, my BLAH moments and my obsessive face oil usage. You get it. I wanted to create something, and it’s got a long way to go, but here I am, listening to some people doubt and listening to some now insanely support (thank you).
The only way to stop doubting yourself is to start having confidence.
I’m a firm believer in vibes, and I totally get that some days the vibes just aren’t there and you aren’t feeling up for anything, but you need to get up the next day and kick your previous day in the ass. Honestly.
Confidence is key in so many things. And there is a huge difference between being conceded and super confident – so don’t take it wrong.
I’m not saying that your shit don’t stink and you’re doing everything right (sorry) but I am saying that you won’t get anywhere if you don’t trust yourself and have some confidence.
And this does not just go for blogging or starting a brand, it goes for anything. I think I learned that when I saw myself doubting numerous things. How could I be a good hygienist if I didn’t have the confidence to be? I couldn’t. How could I create a community for women if I didn’t think I could do it? I couldn’t.
How can you do anything if you don’t think you can?
You know how your mom or someone older than you always said “not with that attitude you can’t!” and it was above and beyond annoying? Yeah. They were right.
Whatever you are doing or want to do or want to create, go full force. Put all of your confidence into it. Do not for a second doubt that you aren’t good enough, because if you think about it – no one really know what the hell they are doing.
DOUBT KILLS MORE DREAMS THAN FAILURE EVER WILL.
And failure is a WHOLE other topic – I will do a post on it soon because I find that subject to be really important and hard to talk about – so we should talk about it.
There are so many people who are going to doubt you, you CAN’T be one of them if you want to accomplish anything.
One thing I do to try to delete all the doubt is write down the answers to three VERY specific questions every MONTH.
+ WHAT I WANT TO DO
+ MAIN GOALS THIS MONTH
here’s what it looks like :
I do this MONTHLY. I print it out and I keep them all in a folder. You can look back and reevaluate, which is huge. It helps to know your WHY, which is also huge. You will gain confidence in doing this, I promise. You learn more about yourself and what you truly want.
DOWNLOAD IT :
I can’t say it all enough, about the whole doubting thing.
Thoughts? Love to hear from you!
HAPPY Wednesday babes, x krissy