It’s currently 5 AM on a Monday morning and I normally post before 8AM so my readers in New York and Boston have a morning commute read. I know, I know – I actually started scheduling my posts for that reason. But those commutes get rough and reading a blog always made it better for me. I see you, subways!
Anyway, I typically have my Monday morning post ready on Sunday night. I don’t have it ready today for a few reasons – I was learning more about code yesterday and shit, that gets complicated. Also, I was extremely uninspired and worked up about.. uh.. people judging.
I hate to even type it out because why in the world should I care?
Why should you care, either?
Let me explain real quick.
And keep in mind, this DOES NOT just go for bloggers, photographers, people who just want their picture taken, etc. It goes for anyone, doing anything. I’m giving you my story because that’s what I do. Whatever it is that you do, keep doing it. Unapologetically.
I was in the North End Saturday with BA and I asked him to take a quick picture of me on my phone so I could Instagram my outfit because 1. I’m a blogger, that’s how it goes and 2. a few people messaged me about my jacket after watching my Insta story so I wanted to tag it on my LIKEtoKNOW.it page.
A man, probably in his 30’s if I had to guess, walked past me in a bit of a hurry. I saw him coming while Bill was just getting ready to take the picture, so I moved out of the way. The man proceeded to walk by me, laughed in my face (that rude laugh, you know?) and didn’t have anything in him to politely move the other way as I did, instead went straight ahead and lived in his own world, expecting me to basically jump into the street so he could have the entire sidewalk.
Now first let me say that I know seeing people take pictures all day long is draining, I totally get it. I get that some people don’t like it and some people want you to know how much they don’t like it. That’s fine, you do you. I understand the “put your phone down” for a minute topic and I do know that I need to get better at it. But I blog, it’s what I do. I love it. I’m creating at all times because I want to. Me, myself, I decide to stand in public and get an awkward solo shot taken because I want to create that bad. It’s part of the game.
It has taken me a while to get over my ‘don’t take the picture yet, people are walking by’ fear. Then for a quick second, this guy put me right back into that mode.
I’m going to be completely honest, I was thrown off for a bit. I mean, it’s hard not to be. I had to go over what I was doing, why I was doing it, who I was doing it for, etc. in my head a million times. I had to basically explain myself, to myself, because of a man who is apparently phased by people taking pictures.
It was almost as if I ruined his morning, you know? Then it turned into embarrassment and questions. Should I even be doing this? Does it bother people that much? Maybe I should just stop all together.
That’s when I have to actually have a pep-talk with myself. No matter what you are doing, why you are doing, who you are doing it for, you will have people who just don’t get why. You will always come across people who have something to say – no matter the situation.
I woke up at 4:30 AM pretty upset that I let someone who I don’t even know distract me from my routine and cause doubt in my mind. Upset and extremely emotional because it was still going through my head, still causing me to be uninspired. The doubt caused from one persons small reaction was hitting me hard and I had to turn it around, at the ass-crack of dawn.
TIPS TO STOP GIVING A DAMN:
Realize what is worth your time and what isn’t. How many times do you find yourself struggling for more time in the day? I am constantly saying “I wish I had like three more hours today” just to get things done. Once you realize what is worth wasting your time on, you’ll stop caring. And I don’t mean that in a harsh way, you’ll just stop caring about things you don’t need to care about. You won’t be wasting your time on people who are bringing you down. It’s a mind thing, so get your mind right in order to realize what’s worth it and what’s not. Really sit down and go over it in your head so you can stop caring about things that don’t matter.
Find what you love to do. This is huge. It’s key. If you love it, do it. People are not always going to understand and they aren’t always going to like it, and that goes to show that you need to do what’s best for you. Once you aboslutely love what you’re doing, you’ll stop hearing outside voices.
Start doing it more. Once you begin to do what you want, you’ll stop being so phased by the things people have to say or how they react. You’ll honestly just stop caring all together, in a good way. It will become such a natural habit that you aren’t worrying about someone who isn’t normally part of your routine and doesn’t enjoy what you’re doing. For example, when I started taking pictures in public more, I stopped caring about who was around. It’s like anything, once you start you’ll get so used to it that it won’t phase you.
Put all of your energy into things that you should care about. THIS. Take every single piece of you, every ounce of energy you have, and put it all into caring about what you want to be doing. Or the people you love. Or your dog. Honestly, do this. You’ll have no energy for peoples comments or reactions because all of that energy is somewhere else. It’s where things matter.
I keep a journal and I continue to write reasons all the time, it really helps. Especially at 4:30 AM (sigh).
And you guys? What are YOU doing? I love hearing your tips, they always (always) help.